Regardless of where you are in the divorce process, Second Saturday, brought to you by CovingtonAlsina, is tailored to help women who are contemplating divorce or in the early stages of divorce take the next step.
This three-hour empowering program addresses divorce’s legal, financial, familial, and personal aspects reasonably and sympathetically.
“Get a notebook for the divorce,” said Ann M. Covington, founder of CovingtonAlsina. “Take notes in meetings. Prep for meetings with your attorney or other professional by writing down questions ahead of time. As things come up, jot down notes in the book and if you wake up in the middle of the night, write it all down and go back to sleep.”
Navigating the world of divorce can be overwhelming at times, so we wanted to provide you with three tips to help you make it through such an emotional experience:
- Be proactive, not reactive – Make sure that your children know the divorce is not their fault. Don’t make them choose sides and try to remain stable and calm when discussing any matter with the other parent. Stay on the lookout for any warning signs from your children such as social withdrawal, being more irritable and angry, suicidal thoughts, or skipping school.
- Take a break – “It’s Important to develop a support network, but it should not always be focused on the divorce – dump, then talk about other things and take your mind off of it”, said Covington. You should take breaks, personally, from divorce matters by carving out time to spend with friends and family. If you feel stuck at times, make a list of things on your mind. Spending time outside in nature, watching your favorite TV show, or cozying up with a good book are all great options.
- Optimism Wins – While it can be hard to stay optimistic during such heavy times, the more positive you can be, the better. Viewing this as a brand new canvas, a new slate where you can truly find yourself. Trusting that things will work out and attempting to seek out new opportunities are all ways to help frame this in any sort of positive light. Most important of all BE KIND TO YOURSELF and your kids. View this as an opportunity for personal growth, to rebuild your self-esteem.
Covington also mentioned, “If you’re considering divorce, gather documents as soon as possible- bank, credit card, investment statements. Tax returns, utility bills, anything you can download or access. Remember that divorce often runs on parallel tracks. There’s the legal track and the negotiation track. You can have the legal schedule running while you are still trying to settle and work things out. Most divorces settle. Finally, the mediator is not your friend. The mediator does not care what you’re entitled to, what you would get if it went to court, or even what is fair. The only thing they care about is pushing you to agree to something.”
Those interested can register here for the virtual program that takes place from 9:00 am to 12:00 pm on the second Saturday of each month.
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